What is a Marriage Intensive Restoration Retreat?
The Intensive is a very powerful format in marriage counseling for helping couples move past the barriers that keep them from experiencing the marriage they had hoped for. Sustained work over four days allows couples, with the help of skilled therapists, to go deep enough to get to the root issues thwarting their relationships.
The key elements:
Intensives provide a chance to change course in life.
Why do Marriage Intensives Work?
The four-day Intensive allows sustained work to not just touch on points of controversy, but to follow up and work through them. When compared to traditional weekly counseling sessions, many couples report a strong preference for the Intensive format that helps them get to the heart of the matter very quickly.
The Intensive format allows couples to keep working, navigating charged areas safely with help to find resolution. The mutual exchange among the couples helps as well, facilitated in an atmosphere that fosters honesty and healing.
Participants come to realize that marriage is challenging for everyone. Situations are startlingly similar. Challenges typically have less to do with difference between us and more to do with our humanness and the challenge of maintaining intimate relationships in the modern world.
Intensives work because of the five following key elements:
The book The DNA of Relationships for Couples, by Dr. Greg Smalley and Dr. Robert S. Paul provides an in-depth look at what takes place in an Intensive, drawn from the well of their experience in facilitating healing in the marriages of participating couples.
Rooted in Faith
One of the questions for potential participants for Marriage Intensives of The Clearing is this: Would you accept a miracle of healing in your marriage if it were given to you?
Is This Right for Us?
People who are in marriage crisis are the most typical couples. They may already be separated with the intention of divorcing. These are couples who are very discouraged, exhausted after trying counseling, and have found they cannot make any progress. The Intensive is a final attempt to save their marriage.
However, often couples come who are generally succeeding in their marriages, but who have long-standing issues they cannot seem to resolve. Additionally, couples that are at a major transition in their lives benefit greatly from Intensives as they reset their course as “empty nesters,” or upon retirement.
Couples leave with a clear sense of what got them to this place in their marriage, how to get unstuck and remain free from their past unhealthy patterns, and what skills and insights they will need to have the marriage they have always wanted.
The Intensive Program would NOT be appropriate:
2. If there is currently an extra-marital affair, the program simply will not be as effective. The program effectiveness depends on two individuals who are focusing on the marriage. The affair must be cut off and both partners must be focused and committed to the present relationship.
Expressions of dissatisfaction from participating couples may include:
Additional issues faced by discouraged couples include:
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